God or the universe or higher power or whatever you call the truth or what governs this world or the source of everything, has created a realm where since we are part ego, we can learn lessons throughout life. These lessons have more impact when they are EXPERIENCED rather than just KNOWN. In fact, when they are experienced they become a part of you, whereas when they are merely known, they are superficial and irrelevant except that you have the opportunity to experience the knowledge if you reflect on it enough over time.
(See a post above this one on the difference between knowledge and experience.)
The point here is that life is always difficult. I mean challenging. If it isn’t, you are resting up in between challenges or you are wasting your time (not growing, not developing spiritually). It’s also possible you are enlightened or close to it, but this is unrealistic for the vast majority of people. Life is like a bicycle ride in that if you want to get anywhere, (grow) you have to be pedaling (working or Struggling). You do get to coast along at times, and this is necessary and fun, but this is not how you get places. (grow) there’s a lesson about this, and martial arts. Sometimes you feel you suck and you can’t do it well. Things don’t work for you. Other times it feels everything you do is awesome and you feel really good. The point is that its during the difficult times that you are learning the most and when things are going well, that’s when you’re not learning, you’re just enjoying something you’ve learned before. There’s another saying; “invest in loss,” this means its better to lose in the dojo than on the street. Practice with those that are better than you and you will improve even though you lose (it’s not as fun to lose as it is to win).
Lessons are realized (experienced) when we have emotional content in a situation; when the situation “get’s to us.” if we’ve really struggled with it, and there are emotions involved we will absorb the lesson and it will become a part of us and change us (actually it changes our WAY OF BEING but that is a subject of another post) and change our future behaviors without us having to think about it.
Life is an opportunity to grow; a stage for us to have drama and these experiences. It’s very powerful alchemy. Beyond this realm, there are beings “without” bodies or more aptly, who do not perceive they are bodies, and these beings grow, but they do not have the same opportunity we have… They don’t have the alchemic powerful opportunity we do. I cannot speak at length about the metaphysical realm, but that much is true.
So when you are in the middle of a difficult situation, remember this is growth. And don’t always try to avoid the difficult situations. What you want is a balance of work and joy.
Based on my astrological chart and affirmed by my life thus far, girls and love and relationships with them are one of the greatest sources of growth for me. This can be agonizing at times. There is no way around these things. Avoid them in this life and they will be worse in the next. I always believe in taking my own medicine or walking the talk or practicing what I preach.